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I remember it kind of shocked me when I first arrived, because I’d be in the car with a stranger, and they’d start belting out a song on the radio.

我記得我剛來(lái)的時(shí)候有點(diǎn)震驚，因?yàn)槲液鸵粋€(gè)陌生人在車(chē)?yán)铮麄儠?huì)隨著收音機(jī)而大聲唱歌。

They weren’t particularly good. But I couldn’t believe how confident they were. They were just enjoying themselves, singing a song, not self-conscious in the least whether they were good or not.

他們唱的不是特別好。但令我不敢相信的是他們自己很自信。他們只是在享受唱歌的快樂(lè)，一點(diǎn)也不在乎自己是不是唱的好。
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I thought it was the cutest thing in the world.

我以為這是世界上最可愛(ài)的事情。

When I go anywhere with karaoke, there’s always a woman or man hogging the microphone. They’re not the best, and they’re usually a little drunk, but they belt it out without a care in the galaxy.

當(dāng)我去任何地方唱卡拉OK的時(shí)候，總會(huì)有一個(gè)人，要么男人要么女人搶麥。他們唱歌并不是最好的，有的通常帶點(diǎn)醉意，但他們卻毫不在乎。

There’s been a couple times where I’ve gone to a restaurant with live music. My Thai friends will jump up and ask the professional singers if they’ll let me sing on stage for a song just because they like to hear me sing Western songs. Restaurants have never had an obxtion to it, I’ve sung on stage several times with a professional band.

有幾次我去有著現(xiàn)場(chǎng)音樂(lè)的餐館。我的泰國(guó)朋友會(huì)跳起來(lái)問(wèn)專(zhuān)業(yè)歌手，問(wèn)他們是否允許我在舞臺(tái)上唱一首歌，因?yàn)樗麄兿矚g聽(tīng)我唱西方歌曲。餐館人員從來(lái)沒(méi)有反對(duì)過(guò)，我都已經(jīng)和一個(gè)專(zhuān)業(yè)樂(lè)隊(duì)在舞臺(tái)上唱過(guò)好幾次了。

Meanwhile, everything in America is professionalized.

然而，美國(guó)的一切都是專(zhuān)業(yè)化的。

Strangers won’t sing in front of you if they’re not a good singer. Nice restaurants would never let a random girl karaoke on their stage.

如果一個(gè)人不擅長(zhǎng)唱歌，他們就不會(huì)在陌生人面前唱歌。好的餐廳絕不會(huì)隨便讓一個(gè)女孩在他們的舞臺(tái)上唱歌。

When I was young, maybe six years old, I used to sing on stage in church because all of the adults enjoyed hearing me sing, even if I wasn’t the best. They liked my performance because it was cute and I loved to sing. But nowadays, even small churches all have professional bands. They don’t let random kids sing on stage unless they’re really good. Somewhere in the past ten years they started to only allow professionals on stage.

在我還小的時(shí)候，大概六歲的樣子，我經(jīng)常在教堂的舞臺(tái)上唱歌，因?yàn)樗械某赡耆硕枷矚g聽(tīng)我唱歌，即使我不是最好的。他們也喜歡我的表演，因?yàn)槲蚁矚g唱而且唱歌的樣子很可愛(ài)。但是現(xiàn)在，即使是小教堂都有專(zhuān)業(yè)的樂(lè)隊(duì)。他們不會(huì)隨便讓哪個(gè)孩子上臺(tái)唱歌，除非他們真的很棒。在過(guò)去十年的某個(gè)時(shí)候，他們開(kāi)始只允許專(zhuān)業(yè)人士登臺(tái)表演。

I’m not saying I despise the professionalism, it’s nice for a lot of things. However, professionalism comes at a cost. I do despise how it limits all of us.
I wish in American culture, we all just started doing things based on if we loved to do them, not on whether we were good at them. I wish it was socially acceptable to do something publicly that we’re bad at, just because we like it.
I think we’d all have a lot more fun that way.

我不是說(shuō)我不喜歡這種專(zhuān)業(yè)精神，它確實(shí)對(duì)很多事情都有好處。然而專(zhuān)業(yè)是有代價(jià)的。所以我確實(shí)反感它對(duì)我們這些不專(zhuān)業(yè)人有限制。我希望在美國(guó)文化中，我們做事情的出發(fā)點(diǎn)是因?yàn)槲覀兪欠裣矚g做，而不是我們是否擅長(zhǎng)做。我希望社會(huì)能夠接受包容我們做一些其實(shí)我們不擅長(zhǎng)但喜歡的事情，我想那樣我們會(huì)更開(kāi)心的。

Joanne Lim, I know nothing, just infinitely curious

我什么都不知道，只是非常好奇
Dowry gifting (下聘）

I’m Malaysian Chinese. According to Chinese tradition, when two people get married, the groom has to pay the bride’s parents a sum of money, with a few customary gifts too.

我是馬來(lái)西亞華人。根據(jù)中國(guó)的傳統(tǒng)，當(dāng)兩個(gè)人結(jié)婚時(shí)，新郎必須付給新娘的父母一筆錢(qián)并帶上一些傳統(tǒng)的禮物。

For those unfamiliar with Chinese culture, in Chinese families, the kids typically take care of their parents financially and physically as they age, as a way of repaying them for raising us. No problemo.

對(duì)于那些不熟悉中國(guó)文化的人，在中國(guó)家庭中，隨著孩子年齡的增長(zhǎng)，他們會(huì)在經(jīng)濟(jì)上和身體上照顧他們的父母，以此來(lái)回報(bào)他們撫養(yǎng)了我們。沒(méi)問(wèn)題。

In the past when women typically didn’t work after marriage, dowry gifting made sense as we were considered “given away” to our husbands’ families.

在過(guò)去，女性通常婚后是不工作的，下聘是有意義的，因?yàn)槲覀儽徽J(rèn)為是“送給”了丈夫的家人。

But nowadays, when we typically have to work after marriage, since a single income isn’t enough, dowry gifting is nonsensical. Nonetheless, not only it’s still being practised, rates have gone up! When my parents got married in 1990, dad gave my grandma RM3,000. Lucky for him, my grandma was reasonable and only gave my mom the money back to buy what she needed for the wedding and the new house. Some parents would just pocket the cash. Now, a typical dowry in the Malaysian Chinese community would be RM8k-10k, or RM24k if the groom is from a rich family.

但如今，我們通常在婚后還要工作，因?yàn)橐环菔杖胧遣粔虻?，其?shí)嫁妝也是沒(méi)有意義的。盡管如此，它不僅仍存在，而且金額已經(jīng)上升了!我父母1990年結(jié)婚時(shí)，爸爸給了奶奶3000。幸運(yùn)的是，我奶奶很通情達(dá)理把錢(qián)當(dāng)嫁妝還給了我媽媽?zhuān)屗I(mǎi)婚禮和新房所需要的東西。而有些家長(zhǎng)干脆把錢(qián)裝進(jìn)口袋?，F(xiàn)在，在馬來(lái)西亞華人社區(qū)，通常聘禮是8千-1萬(wàn)元，如果新郎來(lái)自一個(gè)富裕的家庭，聘禮則是2萬(wàn)4千元。

Adding on the fact I’m dating a non-Chinese guy, I’ve told my mom not to ask for the dowry (even though we aren’t getting married so soon :P). I told her “You ain’t selling your daughter.” Besides, our finances will inevitably be entangled after marriage, so I’m practically paying for my own dowry!

再加上我正在和一個(gè)非中國(guó)人約會(huì)，我告訴我媽媽不要索要聘禮（盡管我們還沒(méi)這么快結(jié)婚）。我告訴她“你不是出售女兒”?；楹笪覀兊慕?jīng)濟(jì)不可避免地會(huì)陷入困境，所以我實(shí)際上是在為自己的嫁妝買(mǎi)單！

Ellie Pearce
When I think of Australia (as an Australian) I think of cricket, Aussie rules football, beautiful beaches, marsupials aaaand…. Racism. Yeah, in 2019 racism is still a thing, even in ‘multicultural Australia’. Every day I get the bus to work and almost every day I hear some moron saying crap like “wish these f*cking gooks and mussies would f*ck off back to where they came from” or “the f*cking boongs (Oz racist slang for our indigenous people) are carrying on again!” - yeah, there are even Australians who are racist against the native people of this land, can you believe it?

當(dāng)我想到澳大利亞（作為澳大利人）時(shí)，我想到的是板球、澳式足球、美麗的海灘、有袋動(dòng)物和種族主義。是的，在2019年，即使在“多元文化的澳大利亞” 種族主義仍然是一個(gè)問(wèn)題。每天我坐公共汽車(chē)去上班，幾乎每天我都聽(tīng)到一些白癡在說(shuō)廢話，比如“真希望這些該死的傻瓜他媽的滾回他們的老家去”或者“該死的boongs (Oz我們土著人的種族主義俚語(yǔ))又開(kāi)始了!”“是的，甚至有澳大利亞人對(duì)這片土地上的原住民有種族歧視，你能相信嗎?”

Its disgusting how many Australians are still racist pricks. We have people from all over the world come to our beautiful country to work or escape horrible situations like wars and what have you. They contribute to the growth of our country, support our economy and some even end up serving in our Defence Force, yet too many Australians treat them like crap, call them names, throw food at them, you name it.

令人惡心的是，許多澳大利亞人仍然是種族主義的混蛋。我們有來(lái)自世界各地的人來(lái)到我們美麗的國(guó)家工作或者逃離戰(zhàn)爭(zhēng)之類(lèi)的恐怖情況。他們?yōu)槲覀儑?guó)家的發(fā)展做出了貢獻(xiàn)，支持了我們的經(jīng)濟(jì)，甚至有些人最后還在我們的國(guó)防部隊(duì)服役。然而太多的澳大利亞人像對(duì)待垃圾廢物一樣對(duì)待他們，辱罵他們，向他們?nèi)邮澄铮隳芟氲角闆r的都有。

Racism is the most shameful part of Australian culture that I''ve seen in my short time on this earth, and is probably the only part of Australian culture I would change if I could.

種族主義是澳大利亞文化中最可恥的一部分，這是我在這個(gè)世界上短暫的生命里所看到的而且可能是我唯一愿意改變的澳大利亞文化。
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Disclaimer: not all Australians are racist, I am not implying that at all, just that racism is still rife in Australian culture.

免責(zé)聲明: 我并不是暗指所有的澳大利亞人都是種族主義者，只是種族主義在澳大利亞文化中仍然很普遍。

Aamir Kamal, Small Business Owner

Aamir Kamal 小企業(yè)主

Cousin Marriages.

近親結(jié)婚

The problem with the Cousin marriages is that the genetic diversification. Shuffling of genes gives birth to a human that may be more intelligent, less prone to disease and if there is a disease in the family tree than it will not remain the same.

近親結(jié)婚的問(wèn)題是遺傳多樣性?；蛑亟M產(chǎn)生的結(jié)果是人類(lèi)可能更聰明且更不容易生病，如果家系中有疾病，那么它就不會(huì)保持不變。

If you think I am against cousin marriage because of the blood relationship, then I am sorry, I would have to disagree with you, I am against this because I think the parents should not be responsible for the child’s suffering.

如果你認(rèn)為我反對(duì)表親結(jié)婚是因?yàn)檠夑P(guān)系，那么我很抱歉，我不得不反對(duì)你，我反對(duì)這是因?yàn)槲艺J(rèn)為父母不應(yīng)該對(duì)孩子的痛苦負(fù)責(zé)。

Cousin marriages are common in most countries, not just Muslim countries.

近親結(jié)婚在大多數(shù)國(guó)家都很普遍，不僅僅是穆斯林國(guó)家。

They say there is no biological reason to discourage cousins from marrying. First cousins are somewhat more likely than unrelated parents to have a child with a serious birth defect, mental retardation or genetic disease, but their increased risk is nowhere near as large as most people think, the scientists said. (NYTimes)

他們說(shuō)沒(méi)有生理上的原因阻止近親結(jié)婚?？茖W(xué)家說(shuō)，近親比無(wú)血緣關(guān)系的父母更容易生下有嚴(yán)重出生缺陷、智力低下或遺傳疾病的孩子，但他們?cè)黾拥娘L(fēng)險(xiǎn)遠(yuǎn)沒(méi)有大多數(shù)人想象的那么大。（紐約時(shí)報(bào)）

Look at the Picture below how Cousin marriages produce Affected Children that suffer for whole life just because of someone else mistakes.

看看下面的圖片，近親結(jié)婚是如何產(chǎn)生影響孩子，孩子一生都因?yàn)閯e人的錯(cuò)誤而受苦。
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By a Carrier here it means that it will show no effect on that person but if two carries marry than they will give birth to an Affected male.

這里的攜帶者意味著它不會(huì)對(duì)小孩產(chǎn)生任何影響，但如果兩個(gè)攜帶者結(jié)婚，他們將一定生下一個(gè)受影響的男性。

Sorry for the biology class, but some people seem to don’t understand how bad it is for the children that are not yet born.

很抱歉上生物課時(shí)，有些人似乎不明白這對(duì)那些還沒(méi)有出生的孩子有多糟糕。
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I hope the Governments of most of those countries, where cousin marriage is legal, will do something to stop it.

我希望那些表親結(jié)婚合法的國(guó)家的政府能采取措施阻止這種現(xiàn)象。

Dante Gibb, Healing after narcissistic rage

Dante Gibb,自戀癥后的康復(fù)期

The giving away of young babies to other families. Called “cultural adoption” either in the Torres Straits of Australia or the Aboriginal people on the mainland.

把嬰兒送給其他家庭。被稱(chēng)為“文化收養(yǎng)”，無(wú)論是在澳大利亞的托雷斯海峽還是在大陸上的原住民。

Babies as young as 1yrs of age given away by their mother to another family. Supposedly loving and caring. It is normal for the real mother and father to no longer have any say in the child’s rearing. They are to from now on “ignore” any and all matters of the natural process of a family. Babies are handed over at small ceremonies, placed on a mat and their real parents turn their backs on the baby and leave.

1歲大的嬰兒由母親送給另一個(gè)家庭。應(yīng)該是愛(ài)和關(guān)懷。真正的父母在撫養(yǎng)孩子方面不再有任何發(fā)言權(quán)是正常的。從現(xiàn)在開(kāi)始他們要“忽略”任何和所有家庭自然進(jìn)程的事情。嬰兒被放在墊子上經(jīng)過(guò)一個(gè)小規(guī)模的儀式，然后他們的親生父母就轉(zhuǎn)身離開(kāi)。

Traumatic to say the least for a young baby to deal with. As the child grows up with other blood siblings in the family, the children feel that they are different to their other siblings. Instinctual as they get older. The adoptive parents cannot help but treat their new addition differently as well.

對(duì)一個(gè)年幼的嬰兒來(lái)說(shuō)，至少可以說(shuō)是一種創(chuàng)傷。隨著和其他有血緣關(guān)系的兄弟姐妹一起長(zhǎng)大，孩子們會(huì)覺(jué)得自己和其他兄弟姐妹不一樣。并且在他們長(zhǎng)大過(guò)程中，養(yǎng)父母也不得不以不同的方式對(duì)待他們的新成員。

This is probably worse case scenario, but I have seen so much dysfunction in many of the children who went through the process of “cultural adoption”. They are eventually made aware who their real parents are in the small village. They are expected to stay away from them. A bit hard to avoid in a small village with just two streets. Made to feel odd from the outset.

更糟糕的情況是，我在許多經(jīng)歷過(guò)“文化收養(yǎng)”過(guò)程的孩子身上看到了太多的障礙。他們最終知道到在這個(gè)小村莊里誰(shuí)才是他們真正的父母。他們卻被期望遠(yuǎn)離他們。在一個(gè)只有兩條街道的小村莊里，有時(shí)候難以避免碰到。從一開(kāi)始就感覺(jué)怪怪的。

Their blood brothers and sisters will interact with them eventually, but only at arms length and it is disrespectful to get around with your real blood brothers and sisters to the adoptive family. And definitely disrespectful to form any relationship with your real parents.
It is just nasty.

最終他們的血親兄弟姐妹會(huì)與他們交流，但也只是保持一定的距離。對(duì)于收養(yǎng)孩子家庭來(lái)說(shuō)，和你真正的親生兄弟姐妹到領(lǐng)養(yǎng)家庭里走來(lái)走去是不禮貌的。和你真正的父母建立任何關(guān)系也是不禮貌的。
真惡心。