一個(gè)學(xué)生對(duì)你說(shuō)了什么讓你不寒而栗？
What did a student tell you that made you shudder?
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網(wǎng)友：學(xué)生懷孕了。謝天謝地，這不是學(xué)生自己告訴我這些，而是一位幫我上七年級(jí)英語(yǔ)課的老師告訴我的。
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What did a student tell you that made you shudder?
一個(gè)學(xué)生對(duì)你說(shuō)了什么讓你不寒而栗？
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That she was pregnant. Thankfully, it wasn’t the student herself telling this to me but a teacher who helped me out with my EFL class in the 7th grade.
A little bit of backstory:
I taught English to grades 1–7 in a public school in a small town called Monta?ita in Ecuador. The program I was teaching for was a government run program. The program assigned a teacher from the school who would be present with me throughout the class, mostly to talk to the students in Spanish in case there is any need, and to help me with administrative stuff. So I was working with a different teacher in every grade.
Ana, the teacher who helped me out in the 7th grade, was really involved in the school. She organised the events and was the unofficial counsellor for the students. She herself was from the same town and knew almost every student’s family and background. In the two months I had been there, she had been helping me with my Spanish as well. And she was my go-to person if I had any questions about the local culture and the students.
It had been barely two months that I had been living there but I had seen many teen moms with their babies. But I had never given any thoughts of that happening to one of my students. For some reason, I always thought it wouldn’t happen when they are in school.
學(xué)生懷孕了。謝天謝地，這不是學(xué)生自己告訴我這些，而是一位幫我上七年級(jí)英語(yǔ)課的老師告訴我的。
以下是一些背景故事：
我在厄瓜多爾蒙塔尼塔小鎮(zhèn)的一所公立學(xué)校教1到7年級(jí)的英語(yǔ)。我教的課程是政府開(kāi)辦的。學(xué)校安排了一位老師全程陪伴我，主要是在有需要時(shí)用西班牙語(yǔ)和學(xué)生交談，并幫助我處理行政事務(wù)。所以我在每個(gè)年級(jí)都和不同的老師一起工作。
安娜是那個(gè)在七年級(jí)幫助我的老師，她對(duì)學(xué)校工作真的很投入。她組織了活動(dòng)，并擔(dān)任學(xué)生的非正式輔導(dǎo)員。她和學(xué)生來(lái)自同一個(gè)城鎮(zhèn)，幾乎知道每個(gè)學(xué)生的家庭和背景。在那里的兩個(gè)月里，她也一直在幫助我學(xué)習(xí)西班牙語(yǔ)。如果我對(duì)當(dāng)?shù)匚幕蛯W(xué)生有任何疑問(wèn)，她就是我的得力助手。
我在那里住了不到兩個(gè)月，但我看到許多十幾歲的媽媽就帶著自己的孩子。但我從來(lái)沒(méi)有想過(guò)會(huì)發(fā)生在我的一個(gè)學(xué)生身上。不知什么原因，我一直以為他們?cè)趯W(xué)校的時(shí)候不會(huì)發(fā)生這種事。
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And then all of a sudden she stopped coming. After a week, I asked a couple of her friends and they had no idea. In this school, this wasn’t something very new. Most of my students came from poor and broken families. They dropped out like that and came back after a while.
So I forgot about it.
3 weeks after she dropped out, a teacher invited me and some other teachers to his house for lunch. The lunch was a big affair with a lot of sea food. After lunch, Ana, the teacher and I had been talking in the balcony. As fate would have it, this student and her family lived right across the street. I saw her sitting on a chair, playing with a dog.
我說(shuō)的那個(gè)女孩是一個(gè)7年級(jí)13歲的孩子。她很害羞，舉止得體。在班上，她總是能夠把作業(yè)完成且從不缺課。
有天她突然就不來(lái)了。一周后，我問(wèn)了她的幾個(gè)朋友，他們都不知道。在這所學(xué)校，這不是什么新鮮事。我的學(xué)生大多來(lái)自貧窮破碎的家庭。過(guò)了不久他們又會(huì)回來(lái)的。
所以我就沒(méi)放在心上。
她退學(xué)3周后，一位老師邀請(qǐng)我和其他老師到他家吃午飯。午餐很豐盛，有很多海鮮。午飯后，安娜、老師和我一直在陽(yáng)臺(tái)上交談。好像命運(yùn)注定一般，這個(gè)學(xué)生和她的家人就住在街對(duì)面。我看見(jiàn)她坐在椅子上，和一條狗玩。
“She is pregnant. That’s why.”, Ana said with a little bass in her voice.
I opened my mouth to respond, but nothing really came out. I tried to think of a response, and yet, the search for words was just futile. As if all the words of Spanish I had learnt by then, had frozen by some atmospheric twist.
A coconut tree stood in my line of sight, so if I moved my head a little backwards I could see her but she couldn’t see me. She continued playing with her dog.
How did this happen? Who was it? What would happen? None of this mattered much, since I knew abortion was not really an option in Ecuador. She would be a teen mom and live with the consequences of it. Her life would never be the same.
就在那時(shí)我問(wèn)安娜為什么那個(gè)學(xué)生退學(xué)了。
“她懷孕了。這就是原因。”安娜用低沉的聲音說(shuō)。
我想張嘴回應(yīng)，但什么也沒(méi)說(shuō)出來(lái)。我試著想恢復(fù)過(guò)來(lái)，然而，語(yǔ)言是徒勞的。好像那時(shí)我所學(xué)的所有西班牙語(yǔ)單詞，都被某種氣氛給扭曲凍結(jié)了。
一棵椰子樹(shù)存在于我的視線里，所以如果我把頭向后一點(diǎn)，我可以看到她，但她看不到我。她繼續(xù)在和她的狗玩。
這是怎么發(fā)生的？他是誰(shuí)？到底發(fā)生了什么？這些都不重要，因?yàn)槲抑缐櫶ピ诙蚬隙酄柌皇且粋€(gè)正確的選擇。她將成為一個(gè)十幾歲的母親，并承受由此帶來(lái)的后果。她的生活將完全不同
I taught a basically remedial math class to 11th graders. I had a student that really caught my interest. They got a 70 on everything. Never below, only above on a test or paper that didn’t even out to a 70. As soon as they had a 70 they stopped and left the rest blank. Think how really smart they had to be to know when to stop exactly 70% correct. They always wrote in red ink. They never said anything.
My students knew I had practiced law for 30 years and asked a lot of questions about law. In a remedial class, if 15 minutes of law would get 75 of math from them, I won. One day someone asked about the insanity defense. I was explaining it when the student said “ you don’t have to use it even if you are really nuts”. Wow, a voluntary statement from the child. Then they said “ my xxxxx didn’t use it when they shot me, just took a deal for 7 year.” I was stunned and wrongfully said, “ How old were you? “. followed by “then they are out of jail now. How do you feel about that!”.
我給11年級(jí)的學(xué)生開(kāi)設(shè)了基礎(chǔ)數(shù)學(xué)補(bǔ)習(xí)課。一個(gè)學(xué)生真的引起了我的興趣。他（她）每次都會(huì)得70分。在考試試卷上，他（她）從來(lái)沒(méi)有低于過(guò)這個(gè)分?jǐn)?shù)，甚至也沒(méi)有達(dá)到過(guò)70分以上。他（她）一拿到70分，就會(huì)停下來(lái)，剩下題目的都空著。想想他是有多聰明，知道什么時(shí)候該停下來(lái)，而且準(zhǔn)確率是70%。他（她）總是用紅墨水寫(xiě)，從來(lái)也不多說(shuō)什么。
我的學(xué)生知道我從事法律工作30年了，問(wèn)了我很多關(guān)于法律的問(wèn)題。在數(shù)學(xué)補(bǔ)習(xí)班上，如果用15分鐘的法律課能換來(lái)他們75分的數(shù)學(xué)分?jǐn)?shù)，我就贏了。有一天有人問(wèn)起有關(guān)精神病的辯護(hù)問(wèn)題。我解釋的時(shí)候，學(xué)生突然說(shuō)：“即使你真的瘋了，你也不必使用它（相關(guān)精神病的條款）”。然后他們說(shuō)：“當(dāng)我的某某向我開(kāi)槍的時(shí)候，就沒(méi)有使用，只被判了七年。”我驚呆了，懷著不公正的想法地說(shuō)：“你多大了？“。他（她）回答道：“他們現(xiàn)在出獄了。你覺(jué)得怎么樣！”.
我立刻后悔了，因?yàn)槟莻€(gè)學(xué)生說(shuō)：“好吧，我從來(lái)沒(méi)有離……很遠(yuǎn)?！彪S后我把我32盎司的飲料打翻了，大叫“哦，不”這樣我就不用繼續(xù)聽(tīng)下去了。
I was very shaken. Do I report this. I went and pulled their “ permanent file” which only had 2 years of info. I realized I had outed a kid being hidden. I noted that the kid always got the exact score needed to pass state exams. There were 4 state exams the next week.
I realized that this child was flying under the radar. If they failed they got attention. If they did very well they got attention but this kid just got 70s and passed so who cared. This kid did not want attention.
The next day in class the kid told me that when scores on the state exams came in they wanted to hear them from me, not the counselor.
我非常震驚。我要報(bào)告這件事嗎。我去查了他（她）的“永久檔案”，里面只有兩年的信息。我意識(shí)到我發(fā)現(xiàn)這個(gè)孩子被隱藏起來(lái)了。我注意到這孩子總是能得到通過(guò)州考試所需要的準(zhǔn)確分?jǐn)?shù)。下周有四次州考試。
我意識(shí)到這個(gè)孩子是見(jiàn)不得光的。如果他（她）失敗了，就會(huì)引起注意。如果他（她）做得很好，他（她）也會(huì)引起注意，但這個(gè)孩子只拿70分，所以誰(shuí)會(huì)在乎呢。這孩子只是不想引起注意而已。
第二天在課堂上，孩子告訴我，當(dāng)州考試的分?jǐn)?shù)出來(lái)后，他們想從我這知道結(jié)果，而不是去問(wèn)輔導(dǎo)員。
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Now, if you have read this far DO NOT CHANGE MY PRONOUNS. I AM PROTECTING THIS KID’s IDENTITY. You don’t need to know if it is a she or he. This is not “ gender neutral ” BS It’s privacy. Don’t tell me you don’t like the use of they… don’t read it if you don’t like it. I find myself making very rude responses to these people. Thank you.
I never saw the kid again. I assume they went to a new home. I’ve looked on FB. googled the name… nothing in 10 years.
成績(jī)出來(lái)的那天他（她）來(lái)找我。這名學(xué)生在四次考試中都取得了近乎完美的成績(jī)，我告訴了那個(gè)學(xué)生：你成績(jī)堪稱典范。他（她）笑著說(shuō)，我會(huì)想你的
現(xiàn)在，如果你讀到這里，不要改變我所用的代詞。我在保護(hù)這孩子的身份。你不需要知道是她還是他。這不是“性別中立”，而是隱私。別告訴我你不喜歡使用他（她），如果你不喜歡就別讀。我發(fā)現(xiàn)自己對(duì)這些人的反應(yīng)很粗魯。非常感謝。
我再也沒(méi)見(jiàn)過(guò)那孩子。我猜他（她）去了新家。我看過(guò)臉書(shū)，而且用谷歌搜索了這個(gè)名字，10年來(lái)一無(wú)所獲。
If you’re looking for an abuse, theft, murder, under-achiever revelation, this isn’t one of those.
I teach business communications to adults in Bangkok. I have been doing it for 40 years, and it’s my passion.
Four years ago, I developed and taught a confidence-building presentations course. The course outline was clear about it being for people who find presentations frightening.
It included the concepts and practices that I wished someone had taught me about presenting plus additional Thai considerations.
Pipat’s late entrance into the classroom was my first hint of ‘uh-oh’ because it was a definite ‘Look at ME!! ‘, unusual for first day and for the course.
The first assignment was to interview a classmate and then give a short, casual (seated) presentation to the class.
Pipat’s intro included his considerable public speaking experience, and I knew this was NOT the class for him. We were also told that Pipat was sure he could TEACH this class, and when I looked at him with a smile, I saw a look of challenge.
如果你在尋找虐待、盜竊、謀殺或不成功的線索，這不是其中之一。
我在曼谷教成年人商務(wù)溝通內(nèi)容。我已經(jīng)做了40年了，這是我的激情所在。
四年前，我開(kāi)發(fā)并教授一門建立信心的演講課程。課程大綱很清楚，專是為那些覺(jué)得演講很可怕的人準(zhǔn)備的。
它包括了一些理論和實(shí)踐，我希望有人能教我如何為泰國(guó)人提供額外的考慮。
皮帕特進(jìn)教室時(shí)候遲到了，我第一次用“哦吼”來(lái)暗示，因?yàn)檫@是一個(gè)明確的“看著我”的信號(hào)！這種情況是不常見(jiàn)的。
第一個(gè)任務(wù)是面試一個(gè)同學(xué)，然后給全班做一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)短的、可以隨意坐著的報(bào)告。
皮帕特的開(kāi)場(chǎng)白包括他豐富的公開(kāi)演講經(jīng)驗(yàn)，我知道這不是他該上的課。我們還被告知，皮帕特確信他能教這門課，當(dāng)我微笑著看著他時(shí)，我看到了一種挑釁的表情。
Don’t misunderstand. I am very good at using higher-skilled participants to help others. They can be excellent aides. But I sensed that Pipat was not the helpful type and would make the others feel inferior.
At break, I suggested that, because of all of his experience, he should take a different presentation course (next classroom). He refused…I discovered later that he had met my colleague and knew that he (Pipat) wouldn’t be allowed to rule.
He didn’t rule in mine either, though he tried. He was never allowed to negatively compare others’ presentations to his own. He was praised when he offered constructive comments but was not allowed to highjack the class with concepts not in line with course obxtives.
現(xiàn)在我內(nèi)心發(fā)抖。
不要誤解。我非常善于利用更高技能的參與者來(lái)幫助他人。他們可以成為出色的助手。但我感覺(jué)到皮帕特不是那種樂(lè)于助人的人，會(huì)讓其他人感到自卑。
在課間休息時(shí)，我建議，由于他有所經(jīng)驗(yàn)，他應(yīng)該參加另一門演講課，地點(diǎn)在下一個(gè)教室。他拒絕了，我后來(lái)發(fā)現(xiàn)我的同事見(jiàn)過(guò)他，知道他（皮帕特）不會(huì)受約束。
他也沒(méi)有操控我，盡管他嘗試過(guò)。他從不被允許自己的演講被作為反例同他人的演講進(jìn)行比較。當(dāng)他提出建設(shè)性的意見(jiàn)時(shí)，他會(huì)受到表?yè)P(yáng)，但他不會(huì)被允許用與課程目標(biāo)不符的概念來(lái)劫持課堂。
Pipat was a confident speaker but not always a good one. Content was often repetitive and unorganized, and though he looked at the audience, he didn’t see them nor have a rapport.
He tolerated my comments.
Right after the final presentation exams, he announced he must leave early because he was required to attend an orientation for his new position as a university lecturer. We congratulated him and waved good-bye.
I shuddered inwardly again.
課程重點(diǎn)是建立信心，思維方式，肢體語(yǔ)言，聲音和適應(yīng)觀眾的反應(yīng)和問(wèn)題。內(nèi)容不是主要部分。
皮帕特是個(gè)自信的演講者，但并不是一個(gè)好演講者。它的內(nèi)容經(jīng)常是重復(fù)和無(wú)組織的，雖然他看著觀眾，但他沒(méi)有把觀眾放在眼里，和觀眾也沒(méi)有融洽的關(guān)系。
他容忍了我的評(píng)論。
在最后的演示考試之后，，他就宣布必須提前離開(kāi)，因?yàn)樗仨殔⒓哟髮W(xué)講師新職位的入職培訓(xùn)。我們向他表示祝賀并揮手告別。
我的內(nèi)心再次顫抖了。
I was in the hallway, filling up my water bottle at a water fountain between classes. Most of the class I was just teaching had already left the room, but there was one boy still in the classroom. He tended to linger behind the rest of the class, so I didn’t think anything of it.
Suddenly, I heard some desks being pushed around in my room. It was him, pushing them out of the way while he ran for the door. He ran straight for the bathroom and, as he passed me, he mumbled:
“I just puked.”
He didn’t have to tell me. I could smell it as soon as he walked by. It was on him.
I shuddered to think about what awaited me when I got back into the classroom.
課間，我在走廊里一個(gè)飲水機(jī)旁給我的水瓶加滿水。我剛剛教的大多數(shù)學(xué)生都已經(jīng)離開(kāi)了教室，但教室里還有一個(gè)男孩。他總是落后于班上其他同學(xué)，所以我一點(diǎn)也不在意。
突然，我聽(tīng)到教師里有人推桌子。他在跑向門口的時(shí)候把桌子給推開(kāi)。他徑直跑去洗手間，經(jīng)過(guò)我身邊時(shí)，喃喃自語(yǔ)道：
“我剛才吐了?！?br /> 他不必告訴我。他一走過(guò)我就聞到了他身上的味道。
當(dāng)我回到教室時(shí)，想到等待我的是什么，我就渾身發(fā)抖。
It had to be a record for the most total area coverage a student has ever projectile vomited in a classroom.
I had a situation on my hands. I had a class waiting for me to teach them, but my room was unusable. I also had a sick student in the bathroom I had to deal with. And I was trying not to vomit myself from the smell.
Fortunately, my coworkers stepped up. One took my class in their room, giving up their planning period. Another called the janitor. A third dealt with the sick boy in the bathroom. It was my job to put down the scented sawdust, to make the cleanup quicker once the janitor got there.
It was all cleaned up within about half an hour. The smell lingered for two days. Some students had to throw away notebooks and even one textbook that was open on a desk in the “splash zone.”
他不知怎么地吐在六張不同的桌子上，甚至吐在其中三張桌子的內(nèi)部（我們的學(xué)生課桌下面有儲(chǔ)藏空間），而且滿地都是，空調(diào)窗戶上也有。然后他就一直吐到到洗手間。
這一定是學(xué)生在教室里嘔吐過(guò)的最大面積的記錄。
還有一節(jié)課等著我教他們，但我的房間又不能用了。浴室里還有一個(gè)生病的學(xué)生，我不得不應(yīng)付。我試著不讓自己因?yàn)闅馕抖鴩I吐。
幸運(yùn)的是，我的同事們放棄了他們的計(jì)劃以過(guò)來(lái)幫助我。一個(gè)在他們的房間里幫我上課，另一個(gè)去叫門衛(wèi)。第三個(gè)是在廁所里照顧那個(gè)生病的男孩。我的工作是卸下那些有香味的木塊，以便清潔工一到那里就可以馬上清理。
雖然大約半個(gè)小時(shí)就全部打掃干凈了，但是這氣味持續(xù)了兩天。有些學(xué)生不得不扔掉筆記本，因?yàn)楫?dāng)時(shí)嘔吐物正好飛濺在書(shū)桌上正打開(kāi)的筆記本上。
I was having problems once when I was a high school teacher with a white male student who lived on a ranch outside of town. After one of many discussions with him, he told me that I should watch myself since he knew the elementary school my son attended and he knew that my son walked home from school. I had several years of experience by then, so I knew to try and handle things myself. I called in his parents for a conference that included the student, his mother, and his father. I explained to them their son’s implied threat, and I reminded them that I could actually file a police report on their son. The father (who looked a little hostile) looked at me and then pointed to his son and said, “If you want to report this little son of a bitch, go ahead and do it!” My student hung his head, and when he raised his head, I looked into his pained eyes. I thanked the parents for coming in. That student never gave me any trouble after that. I had seen that his father was emotionally abusive with him, I saw his pain, and my whole feelings towards him changed. He saw that I had seen what it was like for him. I had several instances where I wished that I could have rescued my students. Every child deserves to be loved and respected.
當(dāng)我是一名高中老師時(shí)，我有一次在一名住在城外牧場(chǎng)的白人男生那里碰到了麻煩。在和他多次討論之后，他告訴我，我應(yīng)該注意自己，因?yàn)樗牢覂鹤由系男W(xué)，他知道我兒子放學(xué)后會(huì)走路回家。那時(shí)我已經(jīng)有好幾年的工作經(jīng)驗(yàn)了，所以我知道要盡量靠自己來(lái)處理事情。我召集了他的父母參加了一個(gè)會(huì)議，與會(huì)者包括學(xué)生、他的母親和他的父親。我向他們解釋了他們兒子的暗示性威脅，并提醒他們我可以向警方報(bào)備他們兒子的事情。他的父親看起來(lái)有點(diǎn)敵意，看著我，然后指著他的兒子說(shuō)：“如果你想舉報(bào)這個(gè)小狗娘養(yǎng)的，去吧！“我的學(xué)生低下頭，當(dāng)他抬起頭時(shí)，我看到了他痛苦的眼睛。我很感謝他父母的到來(lái)。從那以后那個(gè)學(xué)生再也沒(méi)有給我添麻煩。我知道了他父親在感情存在虐待他，我了解了他的痛苦，我對(duì)他的全部感情都改變了。他也知道到我看到了他的處境。我有不止一次希望自己能救助我的學(xué)生。每個(gè)孩子都應(yīng)該得到愛(ài)和尊重。
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One evening, many years ago, some medical students showed up to be “on call” in my psychiatric emergency room. I believe I was moonlighting as the attending, although I may have been on regular call as the fourth-year resident (we could moonlight if we were licensed, which I was). I was also fairly pregnant.
One of the students, a young man, perhaps my age or within a year or two either way, decided he was not going to do any of the tasks that he was supposed to do as a student. He spent the whole evening on the phone instead. He told me he was getting married soon and had a lot to do.
No cell phones in common use back then - so he sat in the doctors’ room using my desk phone.
許多年前的一天晚上，一些醫(yī)學(xué)生出現(xiàn)在我的精神科急診室“待命”我正在參加會(huì)議，雖然我可能作為第四年的住院醫(yī)師定期接受電話咨詢（如果我們有執(zhí)照的話，我們是可以兼職發(fā)熱，我就是兼職）。而且那時(shí)我也懷孕了。
其中一個(gè)學(xué)生，一個(gè)年輕人，可能和我同齡，也可能和我差一兩歲，他不做一個(gè)學(xué)生應(yīng)該做的任何事情。他整個(gè)晚上都在打電話。他告訴我他馬上就要結(jié)婚了，有很多事情要做。
那時(shí)手機(jī)還不常用，所以他坐在醫(yī)生的房間里用我的辦公電話。
At the end of their “shift,” after this guy had done nothing, he told me again that he was getting married and could not be bothered to waste his time with psychiatry.
I asked him if his bride to be was also a medical student.
He looked at my big pregnant belly and said arrogantly, “Oh no, I would NEVER marry a doctor. Ugh.”
That was the thing that made me shudder.
I had to fill out his uation. And I got to fail him. With good reason, of course. He did not meet a single clinical obxtive for the shift. “Talking on the phone with girlfriend” is not even on that list. In all my years of teaching medical students that is the only one I ever failed. I’m only sorry it was just for one measly night in the ER and not for the entire rotation.
我?guī)е钠渌麑W(xué)生都做了他們必須做的事。我們相處得很開(kāi)心。精神科急診室總是很有趣。
在他們“輪班”結(jié)束時(shí)，在這個(gè)家伙什么也沒(méi)做之后，他再次告訴我，他要結(jié)婚了，不能把時(shí)間浪費(fèi)在精神病學(xué)上。
我問(wèn)他，他的準(zhǔn)新娘是否也是一名醫(yī)科學(xué)生。
他看著我懷孕的大肚子，傲慢地說(shuō)：“哦，不，我決不會(huì)娶醫(yī)生。呵呵?！?br /> 那件事讓我不寒而栗。
我得填寫(xiě)他的評(píng)估表。我不得不讓他失望。當(dāng)然有充分的理由。他沒(méi)有達(dá)到轉(zhuǎn)正的一個(gè)臨床目標(biāo)，“和女朋友通電話”甚至都沒(méi)算在原因之內(nèi)。在我給醫(yī)學(xué)生上課的這些年里，這是我唯一失敗的一次。我只是為急診室的那個(gè)可憐的晚上感到遺憾，而不是整個(gè)換班的過(guò)程。
I teach in a low income, high needs community. I have a second grade class. Every morning we do a “fun question” card . The question was simple, “who do you live with?” (I come from wealthy parents, even did my student teaching in a high income community so I was never exposed to children who struggled economically) .. all of a sudden this student puts his head down and bangs it on the rug. His partner comes to me and says, “he’s sad because he said he lives with his grandma because his mom and dad didn’t want him”. Broke me. I didn’t even know how to respond, just let the student have a release of emotions and reminded him that I need him in my class or I would be so sad. Lame but it was all I could think of in the moment to make him know he’s wanted and needed.. at least by me..
我在一個(gè)低收入、高需求的社區(qū)教書(shū)。我上二年級(jí)的課。每天早上我們做一個(gè)“有趣問(wèn)題”卡片。問(wèn)題很簡(jiǎn)單，“你和誰(shuí)住在一起？“（我父母很富有，甚至我的學(xué)生也在高收入社區(qū)教書(shū)，所以我從來(lái)沒(méi)有接觸過(guò)經(jīng)濟(jì)困難的孩子）。突然，這個(gè)學(xué)生低下頭，把它砸在地毯上。他的伙伴來(lái)找我，說(shuō)：“他很難過(guò)，因?yàn)樗母改覆幌胍湍棠套≡谝黄稹！边@使我感到震驚。我甚至不知道如何回應(yīng)，只是讓學(xué)生釋放下情緒，提醒他我需要他來(lái)上課，否則我會(huì)很難過(guò)。這是我唯一能想到的讓他知道他是被人想和被需要的，至少對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō)是這樣。