要讓生活更輕松，并領(lǐng)先他人，應(yīng)該遵循哪些頂級的心理學(xué)技巧?（一）

Lukas Schwekendiek
1) Fake vs. Real - Our minds cannot differentiate between real and fake inputs. If you tell yourself “I am confident.” Sooner or later your mind will adopt this mindset as reality. This is where the Fake it until you make it idea originated.
2) Subconscious Decision making - Our subconscious mind makes roughly 90% of the choices we make every day. If you develop a great mindset about the world, yourself and others, your subconscious mind will automatically make 90% of all choices you make in that favor. Make your subconscious mind work for you!
3) Get on the Positivity Drug - Positivity, as well as negativity, are addictive. When you walk around smiling all day, other people will adopt similar behavior. This causes them to smile back at you, making you even happier. Start being positive and it will increase itself like Magic!
4) Always agree first - People want to know they are right more than anything. Agreeing with them first gives them the security of you being on their side. This makes them trust you and then you can tell them what you truly think. They will be more likely to listen and comply to what you have to say if you agree first.
5) Door in the face - Ask someone for something so outrageous they will definitely say no, and then go in with your actual request. People are more likely to agree to something smaller if they just disagreed with something big.

1、虛假與真實——我們的大腦無法區(qū)分真實與虛假的輸入，如果你告訴自己“我很有信心”，你的大腦遲早會把這種心態(tài)當(dāng)成現(xiàn)實，這就是 Fake it until you make it 想法的起源。
2、潛意識決策——我們的潛意識決策了我們每天大約90% 的選擇，如果你對這個世界、對自己和他人有一個很好的心態(tài)，你的潛意識就會自動地做出90% 的選擇，讓你的潛意識為你工作 ！
3、 "積極性癮"——積極性，以及消極性，都會使人上癮，你整天微笑著走來走去，其他人也會采取類似的行為，這會讓他們對你報以微笑，讓你更快樂，開始變得積極起來，它會像魔法一樣增加你的魅力！
4、先表達(dá)認(rèn)同——人們想知道他們是正確的，而且比什么都重要，首先，與他人達(dá)成一致會給他們安全感，因為你站在他們一邊，這會讓他們信任你，然后你可以再告訴他們你真實的想法，如果你先表示認(rèn)同，他們就更有可能傾聽并遵從你的意見。
5、以退為進(jìn)——向某人提出一些過分的要求，他們肯定會說不，然后他們會按照你的真實要求的去做，如果人們不同意大的事情，那么他們更有可能同意小的事情。

6) Foot in the door - If the above technique doesn’t work, then next time try a small request they are likely to agree on, and then throwing in a bigger one. This only works with progressively increasing requests, but people, in general, will comply with bigger requests if they already agreed to a smaller one.
7) Copy their Body Language - Copying someone else’s body language creates trust. They will feel more connected to you and feel more affection towards you. You encourage them on a subconscious level, that you are like them.
8) Copy their tone of voice and energy - Similar to the above point, if you copy the inflection and tone of their voice, and can give off the same energy, they will feel closer to you.
9) Make making Choices easy - There is a simple Trick that works every time when you cannot make a choice between A or B. Take out a coin. Give it to your friend and have them flip it. They are not allowed to tell you if it was heads or tails. Instead, while it is in the air, you will have made a wish for the coin to land one way or another. Try this with a friend. This works even when someone has seen the trick before.
10) The most interesting person in the world - Treat your conversation partner like they are the most important thing in the world. What they say will save the entire world. Treating someone like that will make you actively listen and be fully into the conversation. This gives them the feeling of importance and provides them with the signal that you are deeply intrigued, interested and invested in them.

6、門檻效應(yīng)——如果上面的技巧不奏效，那么下次可以嘗試提出一個他們很可能同意的小要求，然后再拋出一個更大的要求，這只對逐漸增加的要求有效，但一般來說，如果人們已經(jīng)同意了一個較小的要求，他們就會答應(yīng)更大的要求。
7、復(fù)制肢體語言——復(fù)制別人的肢體語言可以創(chuàng)造信任，他們會覺得和你更有聯(lián)系，對你更有好感，你在潛意識層面鼓勵他們，你和他們一樣。
8、模仿語氣和能量——與上面的觀點類似，如果你模仿他們的聲音的語調(diào)和語氣，并能發(fā)出同樣的能量，他們就會覺得和你更親近。
9、選擇簡單化——有一個簡單的竅門，每次當(dāng)你無法在A或B之間做出選擇時，都會有效：
拿出一枚硬幣，把它交給你的朋友，讓他們拋，但他們不可以告訴你是正面還是反面——當(dāng)硬幣還在空中翻飛的時候，你會許愿讓硬幣以一種方式或另一種方式落地（而那就是你的選擇），和朋友一起試試，即使有人以前見過這種把戲，這種方法也能奏效。
10、世界上最重要的人—— 把你的談話對象當(dāng)成是世界上最重要的人來對待，他們說的話會拯救整個世界，這樣對待一個人，會讓你積極地傾聽并完全投入到談話中，這給他們自己很重要的感覺，并向他們釋出信號，表明你對他們深感興趣，對期所言之事甚為投入。

11) Eye Contact for affection - Holding Eye contact with a stranger for longer than 7 seconds will make them feel uncomfortable. This is because only people that know each other maintain eye contact for longer, giving the stranger the feeling that you know them on a deeper level. That being said, the longer the eye contact is between you and another person, the more affectionate you will grow towards one another. Try holding eye contact for 15 minutes with someone and you will be very likely to deepen your connection.
12) Give a reason for something, people will comply - Ever stuck in a line? Go up to the person in front of you and give them any reason you want to. Most people will let you go ahead in the line. In the study, people asked to get in front of a line for a printer with the reason “I need to print something”. This caused over 80% of the people to agree, although the reason was not substantial at all.
13) You are an extra in other people’s lives - Think about how much you care for an extra in a movie. This is the level of affection every stranger has for you. Do you remember what the extras wore? What their hair was like? Neither do others care for your clothes or hair.
14) Be honest - People can detect liars, even if they cannot determine the lie itself. There is a feeling they get making them distrust you. This comes from millennia of needing to know the traitor in the group to ensure one's survival. Besides, being honest prevents so many problems.
15) Call them by their name more often - People want to feel important and valuable. Calling them by their name creates the belief that you value them more than others, increasing their affection and trust towards you.

11、眼神交流—— 與陌生人保持7秒以上的眼神交流會讓他們感到不舒服，這是因為只有相互了解的人才會保持較長時間的眼神接觸，這會讓陌生人感覺到你對他有更深層次的了解，也就是說，你和另一個人之間的目光接觸時間越長，你們之間的感情就會越深，試著與某人保持15分鐘的目光接觸，你很有可能加深你們的聯(lián)系。
12、給某事一個理由，人們就會順從—— 你排過隊嗎？走到排你前面的人面前，給他們?nèi)我庖粋€你想到的理由，大多數(shù)人都會同意你排到前面去，在某項研究中，人們在打印機(jī)前排隊，測試者隨意給一個理由“我需要打印一些東西”，使得超過80% 的人同意，盡管這個理由根本并不充分。
13、臨時演員—— 想想你對電影中的一個臨時演員有多關(guān)心，這便是每一個陌生人對你的感情程度，你還記得那些臨時演員穿什么衣服嗎？他們的頭發(fā)是什么樣的？別人不會關(guān)心你的衣服和頭發(fā)。
14）誠實—— 人們可以察覺到說謊，即使他們無法確定謊言本身，他們會有一種感覺，這種感覺會讓他們不信任你，這源于數(shù)千年來人類為了確保自己的生存而需要識別群體中的叛徒，另外，誠實可以防止很多問題。
15) 經(jīng)常直呼名字 ——人們都希望感覺自己很重要，很有價值，稱呼他們的名字會讓他們相信你比其他人更重視他們，增加他們對你的感情和信任。

16) Stay silent for more information - Unless you have practiced meditation for a while you will want to break silences. Silences create an awkward pause that makes us feel like we are growing distant to the other person. If you stay silent, the other person will try to break that silence.
17) Embodiment Theory - This theory states that we feel emotions as a reaction to our body. Meaning that we feel happy because we smile, we feel sad because we cry and we feel angry because we punch something. Want to feel happier? Just crack a smile :)
18) Wider stance causes confidence - Take up as much space as you can! The more space you take up in a room the more confident you will feel. Sit with your legs as open as you can, put an arm on the chair next to you, and stand widely with your arms open.
19) Choosing a partner based on smell - A big factor in choosing a partner is smell. Our natural body odor comes from our immune system. If we smell too much like our partner they will not like the smell. This is due to natural sextion as people with similar immune systems were not able to have children with strong immune systems.
20) Color and Emotion - Every color is attached to a specific emotion. Wearing such colors creates more of those emotions. Want someone to fall in love with you? Wear red. Want to feel more confident? Wear black. Want to feel more at peace? Wear blue.

16、沉默以待——除非你練習(xí)過冥想，否則你會想要打破沉默，沉默會造成一種尷尬的停頓，讓我們覺得自己與對方的距離越來越遠(yuǎn)，而如果你保持沉默，對方就會試圖打破這種沉默。
17、身體性理論（Embodiment Theory）——這個理論指出，我們感覺到情緒是對身體的反應(yīng)，意思是說，我們感到快樂是因為我們微笑，我們感到悲傷是因為我們哭泣，我們感到憤怒是因為我們打了東西，想讓自己感覺更快樂嗎？就開懷大笑吧 : )
18、空間帶來自信——盡可能多地占據(jù)空間 ! 在一個房間里，你占據(jù)的空間越大，你就越有自信，坐著的時候雙腿盡量張開，把手臂放在旁邊的椅子上，張開雙臂大步站立。
19、根據(jù)氣味選擇伴侶——選擇伴侶的一個重要因素是氣味，我們天然的體味來自我們的免疫系統(tǒng)，如果我們的氣味太像我們的伴侶，他們就不會喜歡這種氣味，這是自然選擇的結(jié)果，因為免疫系統(tǒng)相似的人無法生出免疫系統(tǒng)強大的孩子。
20、顏色與情感—— 顏色與特定的情感相聯(lián)系，合適的顏色會產(chǎn)生更多的情感，想讓別人愛上你？穿紅色的衣服吧，想讓人感覺更自信？穿黑色，想感覺更平和？穿藍(lán)色。

21) Height creates respect - Height is a sign of power. The taller you stand the more people will respect you and listen to what you have to say. Wear high heels or shoes with thick soles and stand up straight to get some extra respect.
22) People remember the first and last 10% - Also known as the primacy and recency effect. People will remember the first 10% and the last 10% of any event, presentation or conversation. This is why first impressions are so crucial and why the last image you give someone will stick.
23) Change your surroundings - Our mind is affected by EVERYTHING in our surroundings. If you only have positive images and people in your life your mind will be affected by all of them.
24) Misinterpretation of Arousal - We cannot differentiate between being aroused by fear, excitement, or anger. Being in danger, or being afraid, creates a bigger attachment to another person due to this misinterpretation. Now you know why watching a Horror movie on a first date was always such a great idea!
25) The first Decision is the hardest - Having trouble with your partner deciding on a restaurant? Make them decide on something simpler first and then ask them again. The first decision is always the hardest, but once we made one decision, we will easily make another one. Stores use this all the time when presenting small products at the counter to encourage you to agree to another small thing.

21、高度創(chuàng)造尊重——高度是權(quán)力的象征，你站得越高，人們就會越尊重你，越會聽你說的話，穿高跟鞋或厚底鞋，站得筆直，可以獲得一些額外的尊重。
22、前10%和后10%—— 也就是所謂的首因效應(yīng)和近因效應(yīng)，人們會記住事件、演講或?qū)υ挼那?0%和后10%，這就是為什么第一印象如此重要，為什么你給別人的最后一個印象也同樣會讓人記憶深刻。
23、 改變周圍環(huán)境—— 我們的心智會受到周圍環(huán)境中事物的影響，如果你的生活中只有積極的形象和人物，你的思想就會受到所有這些人的影響。
24）對覺醒的誤解—— 我們無法區(qū)分由恐懼、興奮或憤怒引起的覺醒，由于這種誤解，處于危險之中或者害怕會讓你對另一個人產(chǎn)生更大的依戀，現(xiàn)在你知道為什么第一次約會時看恐怖片總是一個好主意了吧 !
25）第一個決定最難——和你的伴侶決定去哪家餐廳時遇到了麻煩？讓他/她先決定一些更簡單的東西，然后再問他/她。
第一個決定總是最難的，但是一旦我們做出了一個決定，我們就會很容易做出另一個決定，商店為何在柜臺上展示小商品，因為他們經(jīng)常使用這個方法，鼓勵你決定另一件“小事”。

Kal Imlay
As a psychology student at university, im always interested to see how people casually throw around “psychology” tricks because the field of psychology deals with many different types of complex phenomena.
If youre talking about social psychological concepts, which would effectively increase youre awareness and aptitude in dealing with social interactions, then here are a few “tricks”:
—Persuasion through flattery: there are two generally accepted methods of persuading people, central and peripheral routes. Central routes use logic to convince somebody why they should do or agree with something. This is like asking your parents for taxi money so that you can get home safe from a night out. The easier method, peripheral, involves persuading somebody that you are a likeable person in an effort to get them to do something because they think its for a good cause. This includes complimenting, referencing a past favor, etc. and is like asking your parents for taxi money because you have been disciplined and obedient all week.

作為一名大學(xué)心理學(xué)專業(yè)的學(xué)生，我一直對人們?nèi)绾坞S意玩弄“心理學(xué)”的把戲很感興趣，因為心理學(xué)領(lǐng)域涉及許多不同類型的復(fù)雜現(xiàn)象。
如果你講的是社會心理學(xué)概念，這些概念可以有效地提高你應(yīng)對社會交往的意識和能力，那么這里有一些“竅門”:
# 通過奉承來說服:
通常有兩種廣為接受的說服人的方法，中心途徑和周邊途徑。
中心途徑使用邏輯來說服某人為什么他們應(yīng)該做或同意某事，比如向你的父母要出租車費，這樣你就可以晚上安全回家了。
更簡單的方法，是周邊途徑，比如說服別人你是一個可愛的人，努力讓他們做一些事情，因為他們認(rèn)為這是有好處的，這包括贊美，引用過去的恩惠，等等，比如，向你的父母要出租車錢，理由是你整一個禮拜都會都遵守規(guī)矩和服從命令。

—Arousal Transference/Source Monitoring Failure: this is a little tricky because it can be manipulative if done wrong. Basically, people are bad at identifying the source of their emotional arousal, even when that source is obvious. If you watch a scary movie with someone, and go to dinner in a secluded restaurant with few or no people, one of you might still feel aroused but fail to recognize why. Then, you or the other may attribute that arousal to the other person; thus increasing attraction.
—Foot in the Door: you can effectively convince someone to donate a large sum of time or money by starting out asking for a small favor and steadily increasing over time. This works because each consecutive donation feels only slightly bigger than the last.

喚醒移情/源監(jiān)失?。?br /> 這有點棘手，因為如果做錯了，它可能會被操縱。
基本上，人們不善于識別他們情緒激發(fā)的來源，即使這個來源很明顯。
如果你和某人一起看恐怖電影，如果你和某人一起看了一部恐怖電影，然后去一個僻靜的餐廳吃飯，人很少或沒有人，你們中的一個人可能仍然會感到興奮，是卻不知道為什么，然后，你或其他人可能會把這種興奮歸因于對方，從而增加吸引力。
門檻效應(yīng):
你可以有效地說服某人捐出一大筆金錢或者時間，方法是從請求一個小小的幫助開始，然后隨著時間的推移逐步增加，這種做法之所以奏效，是因為每一次連續(xù)的付出感覺上只比上一次稍微大一點。

—Similarity Effect: people are attracted to those similar to themselves. This is how politicians become so popular. But you can use this by making friends with very attractive people who are similar to you but that you wouldnt want to date. then when someone you do want to date sees you, they may assume you are attractive as well because an attractive person gravitates to you.
You can also hijack your own cognitive or neural behavior in ways that can improve general performance on intellectual or physiological tasks:
—Visualization: if you imagine yourself performing well on a task with high detail, regardless of the type of task, you will unconsciously make the steps necessary to reach that level of performance. This happens because we confuse thoughts for memories and memories for thoughts. Visualizing high performance, as long as it is realistic, may make it seem like something you had planned to do for a while, and you will naturally fulfill that plan.
—Word Associations/ Mnemonics: attach a term to a meaningful image or a significant number to improve memory for it
—State-Dependent Learning: most semantic information is easier to recall while in the same psychological state as at the time of learning. Lost your keys while drunk? Drink a bit of alcohol again and you just might remember where they are.
—Context-based Learning: study for a test in the room where the test is conducted. For some reason it is easier to recall information in the same context that it was learned. This is why it is so easy to go to another room and immediately forget what you went there for, then remember as soon as you go back to the first room.

相似性效應(yīng):
人們會被與自己相似的人所吸引，這就是政客如此受歡迎的原因。
但是你可以利用這一點，和那些和你很相似但是你不想約會的人交朋友，然后當(dāng)你真正想約會的人看到你時，他們可能會認(rèn)為你也很有魅力，因為有魅力的人被你吸引。
你也可以劫持自己的認(rèn)知或神經(jīng)行為，以改善思想或生理上的一般表現(xiàn)：
—— 形象化 : 如果你想象自己在一項高度細(xì)節(jié)的任務(wù)上表現(xiàn)良好，不管任務(wù)的類型如何，你都會無意識地采取必要的步驟來達(dá)到這一表現(xiàn)水平，之所以會發(fā)生這種情況，是因為我們把想法當(dāng)成了記憶，把記憶當(dāng)成了想法。將高績效可視化，只要它是現(xiàn)實的，可能會讓它看起來像是你計劃了一段時間要做的事情，你自然會完成這個計劃。
—— 詞匯聯(lián)想/記憶法: 在一個有意義的圖像上附加一個詞匯或一個有意義的數(shù)字，以提高記憶力。
—— 狀態(tài)依賴性學(xué)習(xí): 大多數(shù)語義信息在與學(xué)習(xí)時相同的心理狀態(tài)下更容易回憶起來，你喝醉了把鑰匙弄丟了？再喝一點酒，你可能就會想起來要吃在哪里。
—— 基于情境的學(xué)習(xí): 在進(jìn)行考試的房間里為考試做準(zhǔn)備，出于某種原因，在學(xué)習(xí)的同一情境中，更容易回憶起信息在與學(xué)習(xí)的內(nèi)容相同的情況下回憶信息更容易，這就是為什么去另一個房間，馬上就會忘記去那里干什么，然后一回到之前的房間就會想起來的原因。

Rohan Sinha
Humility is any day better than arrogance.
Sometimes bad memory is a boon as you don't remember the things that should've been forgotten.
Don't point fingers towards others while talking, it's rude.
No demands No Complaints is a better way to deal with neglect of others.
Expectation is the reason of your sorrows. Don't expect others to reciprocate to your love, care, affection and friendship. It's never easy.
You can support any cause and create a positive impact when you don't mind who gets the credit.
Do what you love, love what you do. Be Interesting, Be a better version of you, not someone else.
When someone hurl insult. Don't get in mud-slinging. Understand their situation, don't get into dog-fight.
Don't allow them to get successful in their agenda to rob you of your peace of mind.
Success and Failure are both temporary.

1. 謙虛，總比傲慢要好得多。
2. 有時候記性不好也是一種恩惠，因為你會不記得那些本該忘記的事情。
3. 說話時不要用手指著別人，這很不禮貌。
4. 不要求，不抱怨是處理他人忽視的較好方法。
5. 期望是悲傷之源，不要期望別人對你的愛、關(guān)心、親情和友情給予回報，這絕非易事。
6. 當(dāng)你不介意誰獲得功勞時，萬事可干，并且有積極的影響。
7. 做你喜歡的事，愛你所做的事。做有趣的人，做更好的自己，而不是別人。
8. 當(dāng)有人謾罵時，不要陷入泥沙俱下的境地，理解他們的處境，不要陷入狗咬狗的困境。
9. 不要讓別人的成功，搶走你內(nèi)心的安寧。
10. 成功和失敗都是暫時的。

It's all about the lessons we learn through each incident in life.
Some People would play with your mind. They can make you happy by showering you with praises and would upset you by their hurtful remarks. Beware of them! Introspect and stay calm.
Greet others with a smile, everyone has their share of troubles. Why bother them with our problems?
Don't be a parasite ever in life. You are a parasite when you are dependent on someone heavily.
Don't get overly attached to something or someone. You are bound to be devastated and emotionally shattered.
Overthinking is a common problem which is really dangerous for your wellbeing. Get over it!
Don't try to impress someone, you will get tired.
Never be the Lion in the circus that gets claps but he doesn't enjoy the show. Be yourself and enjoy what you do.
Love is all around us. We just need to adjust our antenna.
What you sow that you reap. Karma Rocks!

11. 從生活中的每一件事中吸取教訓(xùn)。
12. 有些人會玩弄你的心靈，他們可以用贊美來哄你開心，也會用傷害性的話語來讓你難過，要小心他們! 自省和保持冷靜。
13. 微笑著迎接別人，每個人都有自己的煩惱，為什么要用自己的問題去打擾他們？
14. 不要做生活中的寄生蟲，當(dāng)你嚴(yán)重依賴一個人的時候，你就是一個寄生蟲。
15. 不要對某事或某人過分依賴，你一定會受到毀滅性的打擊，感情上也會受到打擊。
16. 過度思考是一個常見的問題，這對你的健康真的很危險，克服它吧 !
17. 不要試圖打動別人，你會累的。
18. 千萬不要做馬戲團(tuán)里的獅子，雖然得到了掌聲，但人家未必喜歡這個節(jié)目，做好自己，享受你所做的一切。
19. 愛就在我們身邊，我們只需要調(diào)整我們的天線。
20. 你播種什么，你就收獲什么，緣起緣滅 ！

Don't fake so much that even you fail to recognize yourself.
Stay Curious and develop interest in various things.
Nobody is good for nothing. I trust almighty must not waste her time creating clutter.
Get away from stereotypical jokes on a particular gender or community. Sooner or later, you are prone to be judgemental based on your prejudice.
Stand up while talking to someone on phone. It helps in communicating in a confident voice.
Marry a person who can complete you and you can complete them.
Don't curse all that is traditional just to sound cool. Many things have wonderful reasoning behind them.
Appreciate others when you like something about them.
Don't give a fake compliment to earn their favour in future . Because, it's cheating.
Give a fake compliment where the smile on the face of the person is your prime focus and you do it out of affection; not some malicious intentions.
Being straightforward is great. But, being rude, hurtful and straightforward is a disastrous combo.

21. 不要偽裝得連自己都認(rèn)不出來。
22. 保持好奇心，培養(yǎng)對各種事物的興趣。
23. 沒有人是一無是處的，我相信萬能的上帝不會浪費時間創(chuàng)造雜物。
24. 遠(yuǎn)離對特定性別或群體的刻板笑話，遲早你會基于你的偏見而容易做出錯誤判斷。
25. 與人通電話時要站起來，這有助于以自信的聲音進(jìn)行交流。
26. 嫁給一個能讓你完整的人，你也能讓他/她完整。
27. 不要為了聽起來酷而詛咒所有的傳統(tǒng)，很多事情背后都是有道理的。
28. 當(dāng)你喜歡別人某一點時，要贊賞他們。
29. 不要為了將來贏得他們的好感而假意夸獎，因為，這是欺騙。
30. 給出一個假意的贊美，因為對方臉上的微笑是你關(guān)注的焦點，你這樣做是出于愛，而不是惡意。
31. 直率是很好的，但是，粗魯、傷人、直白是災(zāi)難性的組合。

Janis Ozolins
Wanna know if a person likes you?
Try to pick a word or synonymous word phrases and every time she or he uses it, try to smile and nod. If that person really like you then he or she will start using the word all the time.
Take your words meaning into next level when you’re talking with people!
Every time you tell them something, say that your father taught you this. People tend to believe parents’ advice inherently.
‘Rock, paper, scissors’ champion!
If you wanna win this game, right before playing it, ask your opponent a random question. Usually he or she will throw ‘scissors’, because your friend will be confused.
Do you want people to agree with you?
Try to nod while you’re talking. Why? ‘The nod’ sign means ‘everything I’m saying is true.’ Also following social behavior patterns, people tend to nod back. So give a shot!
How to avoid crowded subway in the morning?
In crowded places we tend to look other people in the eyes so that we know which direction someone is going. We take the opposite way so not to run into each other. So next time you will be in crowded places look right in front of you, in the direction in which you’re going. You will be impressed watching the crowd literally give way to you.
How to forgot song, that is stuck in your mind?
Remember the end of that song? Think about it. According to the Zeigarnik effect, our brain tends to remember the things that we’ve left unfinished.

· 想知道一個人是否喜歡你？
試著挑選一個單詞或同義詞短語，每次她或他使用它時，試著微笑并點頭—— 如果這個人真的喜歡你，那么他或她會開始一直使用這個詞。
· 當(dāng)你與人交談時，要把你所講的話的意義提升到一個新的層次 !
每次你告訴他們一些事情，就說是你父親教給你的，人們傾向于天生相信父母的建議。
· 剪刀石頭布王者！
如果你想贏得這個游戲，就在玩之前，隨機(jī)問對手一個問題，隨機(jī)問你的對手一個問題，通常他或她會出“剪刀”，因為你的朋友會感到困惑。
· 你希望別人同意你的觀點嗎？
說話的時候盡量點頭，為什么？因為“點頭”的意思是“我說的都是真的”，同樣，按照社會行為模式，人們往往傾向于點頭回應(yīng)，你不妨試一試 ！
· 早上如何避開擁擠的地鐵？
在擁擠的地方，我們傾向于看著別人的眼睛，這樣我們就能知道別人在往哪個方向走，而我們走相反的路，這樣就不會碰到對方，所以下次你到了擁擠的地方，看著你的正前方，看著你要去的方向，人群會逐漸為你讓路，結(jié)果一定會令你印象深刻。
· 忘記了歌詞，卡在了腦海中 ？
還記得那首歌的結(jié)尾嗎？想想吧，根據(jù)蔡加尼克效應(yīng)，我們的大腦傾向于記住未完成的事情。
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Do you want your kids to eat vegetables? Like spinach?
Try to ask them if they want two or five spinach instead of asking them if they want spinach. Thus, you’ve made your mind and chose spinach for their lunch, but they feel like they have really made their own decision. You can use the same old trick in different situations.
Someone stalking you?
Try to yawn and look around. If someone is really stalking you, he will yawn too, since yawing is highly contagious.
Do you want your friend to help you carry something?
Continue talking while handing over the “carry thing”. The majority of people won’t even notice you’re handing them something and will take it. However, some people more attentive and less close to you may get pretty confused.
Next time you are going to shake hands with someone…
make sure your hands are warm enough. Why? Because warm hands promote a friendly atmosphere while cold handshaking will trigger the opposite effect.
Paraphrase your friend’s words back to them.
Person will get the feeling you are a really great listener. Just don’t go too far with the paraphrasing thing.
Do you want someone’s help?
Try to start your phrase with the words - I need your help. As we know People don’t like to feel guilty, they hate it. That’s why they they won’t be able to refuse to help.
When person doesn’t like you…
Kindly ask if you can borrow his pencil or pen. Why? Because on one hand, people tend not to help those whom they don’t like, but on the other hand, it’s such a small favor that your ‘hater’ most likely won’t be able to say ‘No’. Eventually that person will come to the conclusion that you’re not that bad.

· 想讓孩子吃蔬菜? 比如菠？
試著問他們是想吃兩根還是五根菠菜，而不是問他們想不想吃菠菜，這樣，你已經(jīng)下定決心，選擇了菠菜作為他們的午餐，但他們會覺得是自己做出了決定，你可以在不同的情況下使用同樣的老招數(shù)。
· 有人跟蹤你？
試著打哈欠，看看周圍，如果有人真的在跟蹤你，他也會打哈欠，因為打哈欠極易傳染。
· 你想讓你的朋友幫你拿東西？
一邊繼續(xù)說話，一邊把“隨身物品”交給別人，大多數(shù)人根本不會注意到你在遞東西，會很自然的接過來，但是，有些比較細(xì)心、和你不太親近的人可能會很困惑。
· 下次你要和別人握手的時候......
確保你的手夠暖和，為什么？因為溫暖的雙手可以營造友好的氣氛，而冷冰冰的握手則會產(chǎn)生相反的效果。
· 把你朋友的話復(fù)述給他們聽
人們會覺得你是一個很好的傾聽者，只是不要把轉(zhuǎn)述的事扯的太過火。
· 想要別人的幫助？
盡量用 "我需要你的幫助 "這句話來開頭，眾所周知，人們不喜歡內(nèi)疚，他們討厭內(nèi)疚，這就是為什么他們無法拒絕幫助。
· 當(dāng)一個人不喜歡你的時候.....
問問他，能否借用他的鉛筆或鋼筆，為什么要這么問呢 ？因為一方面，人們傾向于不去幫助那些他們不喜歡的人，但另一方面，這只是一個小小的幫助，不喜歡你的人很可能不會說 "不"，最終那個人會得出一個結(jié)論：你沒有那么糟糕。